Before you know how much to drink...

see how much is in the glass.

Trust is like a bank account. The more deposits you make the more you can withdraw and if you haven't made any deposits, guess what? That check is going to bounce. This is my philosophy when it comes to the issue of trust. A great deal of the time it isn't the person we perceive that has "done us wrong," but instead ourselves. You can't take big gulps from a shot glass. The sooner people look and see who they are putting their trust in, the better off they will be.